The Value of Little Rituals: Saying Grace, Cheers, and Celebrating Gratitude
In a world that often feels hurried, little rituals like saying grace before a meal or raising a glass to toast with friends can anchor us in the moment. These simple acts remind us of what matters most: gratitude, connection, and the joy of sharing life's blessings.
Many cultures have long embraced the practice of pausing before a meal to express thanks. The Japanese say "itadakimasu", a phrase that acknowledges the work and life that went into the food. The French and Italians offer "Bon appétit" or "Buon appetito", wishing their companions an enjoyable meal. These words, however brief, transform the act of eating from mere sustenance into a shared experience of celebration and respect.
In contrast, Americans often skip this ritual altogether, diving straight into their plates. Is it because we view food as fuel—something to be consumed efficiently rather than savored? Or have we simply lost sight of the deeper meanings these small gestures can bring?
Rituals like saying grace or cheers are a chance to pause and acknowledge the moment. They’re like little prayers—ways to express gratitude for the people around us, the food before us, and the life we’re fortunate to live. They remind us that meals are more than calories; they’re a chance to connect, to celebrate, and to honor the present.
Writing Your Own Grace
For those who may not have grown up saying grace, it can feel awkward to start. But there’s no wrong way to express gratitude. A personal grace can be as simple or elaborate as you like, shaped by what matters most to you.
This year, after a battle with cancer, I found myself reflecting on the gift of simply being here to share a meal with my family and friends. For me, grace is a way to honor this journey, to give thanks for resilience, and to celebrate the people who stood by me. Here’s the grace I wrote to mark this year of healing and gratitude:
"May you matter to those that matter to you. May your body learn to heal itself. And may the goodness of life follow you always."
Each line holds a piece of my story and my hope—not just for myself but for everyone around the table.
A Challenge to Pause
Whether it’s a formal prayer, a quiet moment of reflection, or simply raising a glass to say "cheers," I encourage you to embrace the small ritual of gratitude before a meal. It doesn’t need to be tied to religion or tradition; it’s about finding meaning in the moment.
So next time you sit down to eat, pause. Say "itadakimasu," "Bon appétit," or even write your own words of thanks. In that small pause, you might just find a little more joy, a little more connection, and a deeper appreciation for the life you share with others.